By George Cappannelli
(Editor’s note: Most of you are aware of the statistics about our changing demographics as more and more of us cross over the 50 year line. There are a lot of gloomy predictions out there, but George Cappannelli has talked to many powerful women that have a different point of view and we think you will like their advice!)
Those of us who weren’t born yesterday and haven’t been hanging out with Rip Van Winkle in Sleepy Hollow, know we are in a time unlike any before it. In addition to the many challenges we face – climate change, energy, education, healthcare, immigration, wealth inequality, gender and minority inequality to name a few — we are also in a demographic revolution that will, over the next several decades, result in 50% of our population here in the U.S and Canada and in every industrialized country in the world being over 50 for the first time in history. Increasing longevity, decreasing birth rates and shrinking tax base are just a few of the startling and relatively immediate implications this demographic revolution will have for those of us who are older GenXers, Boomers and Elders here in North America and billions more around the world.
Of course, having failed to do a stellar job addressing other critical challenges, it is not surprising that many in our governments, institutions, businesses and many of us in the general public are behind the curve on this issue as well. We are, in fact, uninformed on and unprepared for the consequences and opportunities that lie ahead.
To be fair part of the problem lies in the fact that as a species we’ve never been in this situation before. We have no blueprint or script that describes what billions of us are supposed to do with this additional time we are inheriting. Surely there must be some purpose in the grand design — other than some outmoded belief in retirement – something of genuine consequence that capitalizes on our wisdom and experience and requires the presence of such an inordinately large number of elders on the planet at this time.
Whatever that reason, one thing is clear. Those of us who are 50 and older have come to the end of the territory described in Acts One (Youth) and Two (Maturity) of the Human Drama and must now address the question of how to write a new Third Age (Aging).
This question prompted me to reach out to several colleagues who are among the leading women authors and experts of our time and who are also members of AgeNation’ World Council of Wisdom Keepers. I invited them to share some thoughts and recommendations that can help us all to begin to write this new Third Act, and in the process, better navigate the future. Here’s some of what they had to say:
Joan Borysenko, Best Selling Author and Expert on Spirituality and Health
“Well, here’s the thing. The world has bottomed out. The statistics are dreary. Some of our best scientists are feeling we don’t have time to save ourselves. However, there’s the alternate point of view. Unusual things happen all the time. The Berlin Wall fell. Smoking has diminished significantly in a relatively short period of time our country. We’ve made major gains in gender equality and, in some areas of human rights. We’re more aware of the need to protect our habitat and to lead lives that are healthier and more conscious.
Still it’s clear we are at a crisis points, but it’s also a turning point. And if I can take a page from my own book: It’s Not The End of The World, although some may think we’re at the end, when people of good hearts get together and support one another, what can happen is a rite of passage. And what happens in a rite of passage is that in the space between where the world breaks down and reforms itself, between no longer and not yet, a whole new way can emerge. In this space we can get out of the rut of the habitual and make room for miracles to happen.
The Buddhists and the Hindus have a word for getting stuck in ruts- they call these sanskaras. They’re like habit patterns of thought formed by repetition in the same way that troughs are created when water runs down hill in the same pathways. Knowing about brain plasticity and knowing that we can make new neural connections, I believe those of us who want to better navigate the future can get out of the ruts by changing our attitudes.. We can also remember that major growth often occurs during times of unwanted changes so if we are willing to finally say: ‘I’ve seen enough of the inside of this box. Maybe it’s time to flow in a different way, to look for and find new meaning, to make – as Viktor Fankl advised us in Search For Meaning – new meaning out of suffering and challenge. So I don’t think it’s the end of the world. I think it’s a whole new age!”
Connie Buffalo, President of Renaissance International, Member of The Chippewa Tribe
“As with many cultural beliefs, there is a marked difference between the identity of an elder in my own Chippewa tradition and that of the elder of the western world.
From earliest childhood, the Chippewa learn that the elders are those we are most grateful to and deserving of the deepest respect. All around us are the elders who enchant our imagination; the stars that shine in the black velvet sky, the towering trees, rocking in the wind, the oceans who carry the songs of the many who walk on, and the grandmothers and grandfathers who are first to be served and honored in the tribe.
The elder is the one who gathers the gifts of a lifetime and takes care of us even as we take care of him or her. Once a person crosses 50, he or she no longer lives in and for the present moment and its gratification, but lives for the next generation. To be an elder is a great accomplishment with the significant role of preparing a good world for the children of tomorrow.
Passing on wisdom and insights then is part of the responsibility of the elder, but certainly not all of it. It also includes knowing that one is a sacred being living in a sacred, precious world. Quite different from the Western concept of “retiring,” this awareness invites the experience of the elder to be respected and put into action for as long as possible.
Instead of hoping that others recognize their ongoing value, elders in my tradition, honor their own potency, sacredness, rights and responsibilities. In this way, elders use this understanding to become a humble light that shines his or her brilliance across the ages. For the Chippewa, who we believe ourselves to be influences how we expect others to treat us and our relationship to the world around us.”
To Be Continued in the Next Post
George Cappannelli is the author of the award-winning and bestselling book Do Not Go Quietly, and co- founder of AgeNation and The World Council of Wisdom Keepers He is leading AgeNation’s six transformational Navigating Your Future Weekend Journeys at The Awaken Whole Life Center at Unity Village. from May through November, which will feature 16 of the world’s leading wisdom keepers addressing the needs, concerns and opportunities for “people who weren’t born yesterday,” as well as for younger people who want to chart a terrific and vital course for the future. The goal of the programs is to assist participants to explore some of the essential and relevant topics, and many primary and empowering tools they can use on the road to living more conscious lives, inheriting their roles as wise elders and playing an active part in recasting a more positive future. Visit www.navigatingyourfutureconferences.com.