Even though it can seem like negative feelings are the underlying issue, oftentimes the true issue is with one’s mind, as one may categorize (and stigmatize) particular emotions as negative or excessive. This stigmatization of such emotions, however, only strengthens these emotions and increases their hold onto a person’s mind, and trying to distance oneself away from these emotions often backfires, so the person finds themselves trapped in a self-reinforcing cycle of negativity. Instead, one should attempt to reconcile with these negative emotions and understand that not only will such emotions return, such emotions should not be shunned in favor of and only of emotions deemed to be good. By challenging oneself to face one’s emotions (while also taking care to keep the acceptance of emotions from becoming a way of evading discomfort), one can improve how one deals with one’s own emotions and mind as a whole.
- Feelings are meant to be felt, and when we try to escape our emotions, we demonize them.
- It helps to force ourselves to come in contact with uncomfortable feelings, if only for short periods of time.
- Over time, we can develop the ability to lessen the impact of negative emotions.
“The problem is not with our emotions. Instead, the problem is with our minds.”