There are many times where you are still allowed to grieve no matter what anyone says or thinks. For example, you can lose a family member more than twenty years ago but can still be grieving today. Whenever their birthday passes or your anniversary with them, you’ll grieve and that’s perfectly normal. You can also grieve outside of death as grief is simply an experience that causes us to emit different types of overwhelming emotion. Finally you can grieve even if you weren’t close to someone. You are allowed to grieve any way and for as long as you’d like.
- A lot of people get told they can’t grieve for one reason or another. No one can tell you how you perceive pain and how you need to deal with it.
- You might be the person telling yourself that you can’t grieve. Maybe you think you’re not allowed to because time has passed. Don’t hinder yourself.
- There might be some reason why your grief doesn’t seem like a huge enough deal to cry about. Maybe you weren’t close with someone who passed away. Or no body died but you are still hurting. It’s okay.
“A person may grieve a lost sense of identity, a lost sense of safety, a lost dream, lost expectations, lost autonomy, among others.”