Lao Tzu said that to care about what other people think is to become their prisoner. Other people’s opinions of us are not, in fact, about us, they are about them. They are none of our business. To stop caring about what others think, know what your core values are and use them to gain self-confidence. It further helps to distinguish between other people’s business and your own business, and to focus only on the latter. Know that you own your feelings and don’t give control of them to others. In addition, understand that you are doing the best you can, and that everybody makes mistakes.
- Knowing what your core values are will help you make it through without worrying about what others think.
- Accept ownership over your feelings; don’t give control of them to other people.
- Understand that everyone makes mistakes, and try to learn from the ones you make.
“The truth is, other people’s opinions of us are none of our business.”